Monday, April 25, 2011


A seven letter word, yet powerful in it’s own right.  Aretha Franklin said it so well in the song, Respect.  There are many levels and kinds of respect.  You may respect someone for a variety of different reasons and this could be considered esteem or admiration.  A butcher may have respect for their knives while a mountain climber for the elements.  Take for instance having respect for someone’s rights or that of a judge or court.  This may be considered deference, but it is nonetheless another form of respect.


Unfortunately, there are too many that feel that respect is a right.  It isn’t – it’s something that is earned.  It’s intangible, but at the same time, very real!  Before you can show respect for others, you must first have respect of yourself.  Conversely, for others to show you respect, you must respect others as well.


We take too much for granted in our daily lives and this includes the people around us.  I believe that a strong ingredient of respect is that of common courtesy.  Being courteous to others is not only respectful to others, but it directly reflects on you as a person. It means putting yourself in the other persons shoes instead of thinking of yourself first.


This reminds me of the “ME” generation of the 80’s where it was all about me, me, me!!  Personally, I could never understand that concept, yet I know of others, that still to this day, feel that it is all about ‘Me!’  Unfortunately, I always found this somewhat distasteful.  I may be wrong, but as much as I can respect someone’s viewpoint, I also find the ‘me’ thing as a lack of respect of others.  I don’t see how the two can co-exist.


I can go on and on with this topic, but it all comes down to that we have to learn and in some cases relearn what respect is.  I’m not saying to always put yourself in the backseat, so to speak.  You have to take care of yourself, but not at someone else’s expense. How can someone respect themselves while doing so?


Maybe I’m crazy…OK, let me rephrase that…I know I’m crazy and others with attest to this, but I also firmly believe that if you give common courtesy and respect you will get back an abundance of it.  It is not just a concept, but a way of life. Imagine what a better place this would be if we could all understand those two simple concepts and put them into actions.  Some may say I’m being a Pollyanna, but maybe if we all just started with someone….who knows how large this could grow!


As always….Marc It Sold!....and have a great day!!

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Reinventing Yourself

There comes a time at some point and for whatever reason that we may feel it is time to reinvent ourselves.  We all do it, even if we think that we don’t.  Of course, a lot of introspection comes with this.  This time of year and especially during the holidays, for most Easter and Passover, generally bring on a reflection of our lives – where we’ve been and where we are going.

‘Reinventing’ ourselves has become a buzz word as of late.  I’ve heard so many use it.  Some have called it a transformation.  Yes, I’m sure it is a sign of our times.  There is a lot of uncertainty out there.  We may be concerned about our job, our finances, where we are going – in short, OUR FUTURE!!

As I stated, a lot of introspection is needed now.  I obviously came to this crossroad as well.  How I got here probably differs from many for we all take our own path, but here I am, or I should say was.

I’ve been a licensed Real Estate and Mortgage Broker for almost 12 years.  I love what I do!!  I consider what I do as helping people achieve a goal and that is so rewarding to me.  I do not have an issue with change and actually embrace it!  I sometimes consider it a challenge and that is good for the mind, nevermind body and soul.

We all know, or should know, what has been occurring in the real estate and mortgage industries.  The news if full of it.  It has affected many of our lives greatly.  This is what has led to my questioning where I stand.  What should I do?  Where should I go?

After searching several different avenues and looking at some of the opportunities out there as well as the ones that I could create.  I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be anywhere else.  I already love what I do.  I never wanted to fully leave real estate.  In fact, a very close friend and client said to me the other day, that real estate and I were made for each other.  I know that I’m good at what I do and, no, I’m not being an egotistical bastard.  But this compliment did make me think and helped in my reevaluation.

In fact, I’ve been very lucky throughout my life to have always loved what I was doing.  Unfortunately, too many can not say this, so I know that I’ve lived a very fortunate life!  What probably helps most, is that I have a very supportive partner.

If you are embarking on a reinvention or transformation – remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day!  In other words, you need to need to be patient with yourself and have a plan.  All this is for naught without some sort of plan.  Look at where you want to go and then look at what will it take to get there.  Do research, just don’t do this willy-nilly.  Otherwise you are setting yourself up for disaster and defeating your own purpose.

This is a new path that you are taking.  It involves many aspects of which education is a very important one.  But remember – life is an education.  School is not out yet.  That doesn’t happen until you take your last breath.

No matter what obstacles we’ve seen or are in our way, all we should be doing is looking forward.  This is not to say forget the past.  Otherwise you lose the lesson.

Believe in yourself – remind yourself of all your personal accomplishments.  At the same time, be true to yourself.  Don’t try to make something of yourself that you are not.  Not everyone is an entrepreneur.

Good luck on your journey!  You’re not alone!

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